Be genuine

 You’ve got to mean what you say—and not just because that’s the gentlemanly thing to do. Your body language always tells the truth, and if it isn’t in-sync with your words, she’s going to call your bluff, says Orbuch.

Since women are superior to men at picking up on these things—although you can Read Her Body Language—your chances of successfully faking sincerity are grim, she says.