“I feel so good when I’m with you.”

You don’t have to talk dirty to turn her on,” says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., a Los Angeles-based sexologist. “Letting her know that she makes a difference in your life makes her feel significant, special, and sensual,” she says. “This is an intimate form of expression that women long for and when they get it, they want to reciprocate with more sex.”