“You look so hot in that position.”

During sex, women can spend a lot of time “spectatoring,” focusing on the activities from a bird’s-eye view, Needle says. So she’s probably already considered how she must look with her legs like that.

Letting her know you love the view can help assuage her fears. “The more comfortable she feels in her own skin and the more attractive she feels, the hotter the sex is going to be,” Kerner says.