1. “MY HAND WAS BORED, SO I GAVE IT SOMETHING TO DO.”

Why it works: Sounds corny, we know. “But by stating the obvious, your partner may just roll her eyes and laugh, which may neutralize the situation,” says NYC-based sex coach Amy Levine, M.A., C.S.E.

(For more exclusive tips from the world’s best sex experts, check out How to Pleasure a Woman, the new manual from the editors of Men’s Health.)