2. “I DIDN’T WANT TO GET REJECTED, SO I TOOK MATTERS INTO MY OWN HANDS.”

Why it works: Mismatched libidos can put a strain on many relationships, and couples don’t always have the courage to talk about sexual issues. Getting caught in the act could provide a good opportunity to broach the subject.

“She may take it personally and feel self-conscious,” says Levine, “but by calling out the elephant in the room, you may actually encourage some constructive discussion.”